My truce with peoplability.......

The science of human behavior is psychology. Yeah way to go girl, what a start. Phhtt! Well what I meant was, I am dedicating this article to psychology. Not exactly depicting the science of reading another person’s behavior but atleast trying to convince you that having some prowess in this field can be really handy. Why, how, what, where, are you nuts, will be answered in coming lines, I hope so!

Life is really unexpected right? It’s a series of train wrecks with breaks of happiness in between (you can look up the origin for this one yourself). My 26 years’ experience of people management (the fancy term for getting work out of people) made me realize that life is majorly unexpected because of people around you. Their tendency to act differently in different situations. This sheer randomness brings the rainbow in this otherwise gloomy life of ours (did you get the irony “sheer randomness”).

You know when you read a book and how the writer judges the character of other person just by his experience or some actions in her first meet. I always found it to be a superpower. Although, I am still struggling to find out, whether it’s a Superman or Batman kind of superpower. Are you just born with it, or learn it as you grow. Because for me, people always create this wall of disguise around them, and I constantly find myself jumping to just get a peek around. I knew I am not the superhero kind.

Let’s call understanding people with a simple term such as tagging. You know how you do it like ohh he’s an asshole, but she’s so gullible, yeah! He’s a complete jerk, so she’s just plain (yup being full time biased feminist here). Tagging can be done in many ways. Say when you are sitting in a meeting room with a bunch of strangers and you tag each of them registering their faces in your mind. This is the easiest form of tagging. The complexity comes when your first impression is not correct and you learn it the harder way, leading to guilt or anger.

I know what you are thinking, why to give so much importance to people in your life, I mean they anyways are not going to stay forever. So why waste so much time and energy in understanding them. I will give you a very simple explanation to this. In alignment with the notion of I don’t care what the world do or think about me, we are still on earth to do something before we die (even if it’s just squatting). This phenomenon of why we are born is easier to decipher when we try and understand the people around us. Affecting souls by simple gestures, bringing smiles on their dull faces, teaching them a lesson when they need it the most actually makes our existence a little more justified. Affect them and get affected by them through understanding each other. Not so simple now huh! Sorry got drifted away.

Please do not mistake me of travelling towards the dreaded humanitarian grounds here. I am talking about this in a very selfish kind of way. Trust me the feeling that comes when you guess someone’s behaviour is oddly satisfying. Imagine the power you possess, right. It brings that surreal calmness which can actually make people jealous.  Also, do not mistake it for being judgmental about anything. Understanding is quite an iterative process which requires patience and keen observation. You have to take in a lot before you come to a conclusion. The limits of same I leave on you.

In a nutshell, I would really love to have this satisfaction and calmness in my life. Just to have a little more control on this bizarre and berserk world around me full of little devils we call as humans (please see I am also one of them, so don’t get offended).